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I can't believe how aggravated I am at the moment. I know it is little and I probably have no right to feel this way. They finally put my windows in yesterday. After I had moved everything in my room. (most of it is still up in the attic). To come home today and know that someone was in my room moving things. Yes I am bad and have somethings under furniture. Some books and containers. But I got home from work and the stuff that was under the furniture (where I know where it is) is out next to the furniture.

I know it was my Dad that had to of done it since the heater vents are behind this furniture but I have never had a problem with heat in my room. Actually he keeps this house so hot I end up closing some of the vents. (Since my bedroom is up top the heat rises). It just is bothering me that he actually went through my things.

Yes I see my Yaoi novels must of fallen because I had them upside down and in a idffernt order now then are all face up and in a different order. Now I just noticed he put some of them in a bag I had next to my chair. Not happy at this moment. I don't go rummaging through his room. I put the light from the living room, and the coffee table in there because we where decorating for Christmas but I did not go through anything.

Since this is his house do I have the right to be upset about this?

(Of course you know I will end up moving everything back) just because that is where I store it and it has been stored there since I moved in 9 years ago.

Okay done rant. Eventually I will get back to the December Meme. I was looking for photos yesterday since that is what is next and haven't found one's I want to post. (Knowing me it will be January before I get done).

On another note they talked to me about maybe finally being hired full-time in January. It was odd they actually asked me what price I was looking for. I have never had that happen before usually when I get hired they tell me what the salary for the position is. So it was hard for me to talk to them. After talking to a few people I went with the approach this is what I made working with them so far this year including overtime, and this is what I made at my last company. Since I was new to this and never had to do this before they are the two figures, I have. So know we will have to see what they come back with :)

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maxiekatt2
Dec. 12th, 2009 10:34 pm (UTC)
Oh, good luck with the job - that sounds good and it'll be great to have that stability again :)
reader17
Dec. 13th, 2009 02:15 am (UTC)
Yes I will be happy to have the stability again along with having benefits where I don't have to worry if they run out. I should find out in the next week or two. The bigger boss is in from Einhoven and he is the one pushing to get the paperwork started before he goes back, in the next week.
abscondite
Dec. 12th, 2009 11:20 pm (UTC)
I'm crossing my fingers for the job. Full-time would be awesome! Do you like the company?

I can also understand you being mad that your things were moved around. I would've been mad too. You know, even if it is someone else's home, it's important to respect personal boundaries and at least have a discussion about what the homeowner needs to happen lol before going in there and doing it themself. Especially with adult children~ it just seems pretty important to me to be diplomatic about the whole thing to promote living together harmony!

I've never lived in the family home after moving out for school, but while I was a minor, I think my mom rifled through my things with extreme relish. lol. Why she did that, I really don't know. Maybe looking for drugs? The porn stash? Anyway, I don't think that helped our relationship haha.

While my husband and I were dating, his sister actually lived with me for two years. She was really messy and didn't want to see the floor of her bedroom or dust or vacuum or clean her connected bathroom or whatever... but we sat down to have a talk about it once where I laid down some ground rules... like no food or drink in the bedroom and I'd ask her to pick everything up off the floor once a week so I could come in and vacuum, and she allowed me to clean the bathroom every other week or whatever~ lol I think she would have liked it if I was her personal maid. Where was I going with this? Haha.

*sends you good vibes for the job*
reader17
Dec. 13th, 2009 02:23 am (UTC)
Actually up until the new windows you probably couldn't find my floor either. (Mainly because of all the stacks of books. Plus I seem to wash my clothes and throw them all on one chair. So I have gotten the lecture from him for the past month about getting rid of clothes that no longer fit and to get rid of stuff no longer used. (little does he know I won't give up my books easily) :)

Hmm I can remember as a teenager my room looked like that no floor space and my mom would go in and clean in once in awhile. (mainly get the wash and that would clean the floor). Now my daughter has my room and it looks just like when I was a kid. Only difference is a lot of her floor space was covered in books. She put 10 bags of books in my room right before the guy came to do the windows. So I had to stash them away also. Now we can see a section of her floor not a lot but it is a start :)

I'm not sure I like the company I know that sounds weird. The work is easy and the hours are okay (except the whole working on Saturday, and holidays). They just have a really different atmosphere then I'm used to. The people are nice. But I will be happy just to have a full time job instead of being a contractor. In January I will be there a year so I know what the company is about.
yes_rhade
Dec. 13th, 2009 02:13 am (UTC)
Good luck with the job. I'd feel very weird too if they asked my how much I wanted.

I live with my folks too. There is no privacy here. They just walk in and get food out of my fridg, take my laundry. I always look forward to the times when she's on a trip and no one is home. Total quiet and privacy.
reader17
Dec. 13th, 2009 02:30 am (UTC)
I did feel very weird with them asking. I'm more used to a job offer and they give you an amount. I had talked to my old boss to see what would be the best way to approach it and he was the one that came up with the idea of telling them how much I used to make or figure out how much I made so far. So I took both suggestions and put them in one. Explaining how much I made since I had been there, and how much I used to make. This way it is putting it back on them to come up with the amount. I would be happy if it lands in the middle :)

Glad someone else understands the no privacy thing. It just is weird as a kid we were taught you just don't go into there room for anything without asking. If he would of just said move them because of where they where at I would of just moved them. Instead he came up to my room and did it himself. Wondering if he got an eye full when my Yaoi novels fell. I wonder if it shocked him :D

My Dad doesn't go anywhere. Ever since my Mom died he hasn't really gone anywhere. He used to take my grandparents upstate once a year but since they can no longer make the trip he hasn't gone. I sometimes wish he would just go down the shore, or go upstate and visit anything just to have the house to myself for the weekend. (I know my kids would still be around it just would be nice). So I can't blame you for looking forward to the times when your Mom is on a trip and no one is home. It is really nice and relaxing :)
kokiden
Dec. 20th, 2009 04:36 pm (UTC)
Don't be afraid to ask too much! Money, I mean. ANd good luck!!!

You have every right to ask your Dad not to touch your things. He may not like it, and it may be awfully awkward, but in order to live happily together, he needs to understand this.

Good luck with everything!
reader17
Dec. 20th, 2009 05:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks I still haven't talked to him yet. I just let it go. Once I was done ranting.

Thanks for the encouragement. I think over the last few days he has driven everyone in the house nuts with comments here and there.
kokiden
Dec. 20th, 2009 05:15 pm (UTC)
Oh, no. I'm so sorry!
reader17
Dec. 20th, 2009 05:24 pm (UTC)
It's okay. I think it is because he is stuck in the house with us. In the Spring, Summer and fall he is outside all of the time doing something. But in the winter he is stuck indoors which doesn't make him happy. So he is picking on the house needing clean, wash if you leave it out, so all sorts of things.

I don't think he knows what to do with himself so it is easier for him to grumble. Since it snowed yesterday he has been busy outside shoveling (even though I told him I would do it). But we don't go outside fast enough for him so he does it. (I think it is his excuse to just get outside and do something). I just worry he is 79 years old and I don't want him to over do it.
kokiden
Dec. 20th, 2009 05:54 pm (UTC)
It sounds like he really needs to do something, though!
reader17
Dec. 20th, 2009 09:30 pm (UTC)
Yes he does. He likes to keep busy. :)
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